Being A Man

The transition from boy into man is a hugely profound and unique experience that, ideally, a father should guide his son through. I've figured out much on my own, and it all seems to center on these laws/themes on what a Man should be.

In random order then, a Man:

  1. Protects his family. Anyone or anything that aims to do his family harm will have to go through him first.
  2. A man defends himself, especially to protect his reputation.
  3. Knows and admits when he's wrong.
  4. Knows how -- and when -- to laugh.
  5. Knows that there is no shame in asking for help, but that he must also possess his own skill.
  6. Is loyal, dependable, and reliable. People count on him instead of worrying about him.
  7. Knows that being a leader breaks down into three simple things:
    1. When a leader is put in command, he takes charge
    2. A leader does the right thing -- not the cheapest, easiest, simplest, or fastest thing.
    3. A leader knows that in order to be successful, those underneath him must be successful first.
  8. Helps people without expecting anything in return.
  9. Doesn't complain. Instead, he sits down, shuts up, and solves the damn problem.
  10. Is involved in the world around him.
  11. Treats others with respect, regardless of age, education, or ability, but also knows that respect itself must still be earned and can very easily be taken away.
  12. Knows how to be a gentleman to a Lady.
    1. Offers his arm.
    2. Knows that "just because" is sometimes all the reason you need.
    3. Holds the umbrella
    4. Offers his coat when it’s cold or rainy
    5. Buys flowers when she expects them... and when she doesn't.
  13. Knows that marriage and fatherhood is not to be entered into lightly.
  14. Teaches what he knows to the next generation

More as they come to mind...

UPDATE: 12/20/09

Ooo! It appears I touched a nerve with some poor bastard out there! Click here to see how I take them to school.

  Tuesday, December 22, 2009 07:54:55 PM